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An excellent toastmaster did all the Advanced Projects 3 times! He’s a 3-time DTM.
When I heard this, I was astonished, “Is he crazy?”
Some people also wondered if it was because he had nothing else to do.
The truth is he really deserves the title of DTM. He grasped all the essence of each project, and he wrote guidance to each project which has been widely used among toastmasters here, let alone his help and support to many other toastmasters. He is the champion of District Evaluation Contest this November and the champion of District Speech Contest several years ago.
I was also told that how he struggled to improve his English as he was not born in an English-educating environment. Now he’s an English phonetic trainer.
We all have heard some stories about successful people. Sometimes, they seem too crazy to be understood.
What we may not have noticed behind their craziness are their determinations and persistence! They are so sticked to their dream that they’ll try each and every means to realize it.
Do you really desire to succeed? Stick to your dream and kick out “impossible” from your dictionary. Be crazy!
3. Make everyone you meet feel important.
I have a good memory and am keen to learn. I can always remember where I meet my friends and what is special of them at that time. I’ve never intend to do that, but it did leave a good impression on people. This may be my talent or gift, but you can learn that as well.
I met some senior toastmasters in some clubs. Two of them are Language Evaluator. When I met them respectively several months later, I mentioned their “Word of the Day”. They were all surprised as they themselves almost forgot. They felt important and also had a good impression on me since then. Who wouldn’t like to make friends with those who think them as important?
4. Have interest in others.
No one would like to be ignored. We all want others to have proper interest in us.
In the immdiate past toastmasters convention, I met a girl in our model team. I noticed her at our first rehearsal. She was quite calmful and modest compared with other girls. After the performance, we sat in the same dinner table. Later in “Hall of the Fame”, the acknowledgement session, she was recognized as Toastmaster of the Year! I was quite shocked. I congratulated her although we didn’t talk a word before that. Then we began to talk a lot and became friends.
I thought it was necessary to express your appreciation and congratulations when somebody achieves the honor. I didn’t realize I did a good thing by congratulating her until I found the other models sitting at the same table didn’t do anything and even gave no glance at her! I realized that’s why I have more friends and I’m more welcomed by friends.
Above opinions are my exprience on how to become popular. I must say you cannot just use them as skills or techniques. All of them must be founded on the basis of your inside qualities, sincerity, respect and care.
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I have a lot of friends and I’m kind of popular among them. Many people say, because you are a lady, young and beautiful.
That isn’t all of the truth. Imagine you meet a beautiful young lady and you feel like talking to her, while she doesn’t even give you a glance. Or all that she talks is empty talk. Are you still eager to continue the talk with her?
Popularity has nothing to do with beautifulness. Beautifulness can help you be attractive at first, but after the first attraction it’s your personality that matters. Everybody can be popular among friends. How?
1. Be sincere.
Sincerity may be the most important factor when we make friends. If you want to become popular, you must first become the sincere friend that is worth making for others.
Being sincere means you speak truly about your feelings, thoughts and desires. It’s a quality of naturalness and simplicity.
I enjoy sharing my feelings and thoughts with my friends. Sometimes, I am considered to be straightforward. I feel tired if I have to beat about the bush. Why do we have to waste so much time and couldn’t get to the point right away? It’s my opinion and you may disagree with me. But I do believe we can be more efficient and effective if we are sincere to each other.
2. Be helpful.
Helping others is really a great joy. You will lose nothing to help others, maybe some money or time, but comparing with the joy you’ll get they are really nothing.
I wonder what prevents us from helping others. Many people worry too much before they help others. “If I help them, I’ll lose some money and time; but if I don’t, what will they think of me?” A lot of brain cells have died while you are thinking. Instead of worrying, why not go and help as after the help, you may still worry about the money and time you lose. Since you will worry sooner or later, help is a sensible choice and it will not cost a thing.
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Many of my male single friends are often troubled with this problem, “Why no girl likes me”? They told me, “No matter how hard I try, no matter how many flowers and gifts I buy, it just doesn’t work.”
If you really want to win the heart of the girl you like, you must become good enough to be loved, then you must know what a girl wants and thinks.
1. Are you good enough to be loved?
“Of course I am!” Many men answer, “I have a decent job or even a successful career.” (Let alone “I’m rich” as we all know money can’t bring you a girl who really loves you.)
Does that count? I’m afraid not. Check out the following scenes. Are you in one of them?
You are with several friends, waiting for the lift. No sooner has the door opened than you are the first one dashing into the lift and standing at the corner. As a result, it’s the girls who enter afterwards and press the button for you.
You ask a girl out. After walking a while, you say you are thirsty. You come into a coffee shop and ask if the girl wants something to drink. The girl says she’s not thirsty. So you just buy yourself a drink. Both of you sit down, face to face, while you yourself enjoy your drink.
You walk on. Then it’s dinner time. You happen to pass by the Starbucks. You want to show your generosity and say to yourself that you will pay the drink for her. Both of you order your own drink. The poor girl is hungry and about to order a piece of cake. It’s $6, wow, a big sum for you! You say hurriedly, “you are not that hungry, right?” “I pay on my own!”
Above may be some trivial things from your point of view. But they are BIG enough to show your weaknesses: graceless, uncaring and stingy.
Money, good job, high rank, and other similar things are just like your beautiful coats. It’s far from making a girl like you. It’s your warm and considered heart that touches a girl’s heart. Take all your glorious coats off and learn how to become lovable.
2. Do you know what a girl wants and thinks?
Men and women are so different. You must know what girls want and think so that you can love her in the way she wants.
- Most girls are passive in a relationship.
Girls are always waiting for men’s first move to show their favorable impressions. If you are always hesitating whether you should speak to her or say something good about her, you may end up with losing the chance even to get to know her.
You are man. You are the one who should take the initiative. What will you lose if she makes no response? Even if she responds unfriendly, you will lose nothing. Just blow a whistle or play a joke on yourself.
- Girls are to be spoiled.
Every girl has a dream of being the princess, which makes them feel important and spoiled. Every girl can be like an angel if she meets the right man who knows how to love her.
Give her your faith in her, show her your appreciation, support her when she has a dream, listen to her when she’s upset……Then you will always have her be there for you and take care of you.
If you don’t know how to love a girl, take a careful look at these two songs:
Bryan Adams: Have You Ever Really Loved A Woman
Celine Dion: Because You Loved Me
In summary, if you want to win a girl’s heart, remember what Benjamin Franklin said, “To be loved, love and lovable.”
Similar posts: Men and Women (1) & Men and Women (2).
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Every Monday is gratitude day.
Last Thursday is Thanks-giving Day in the US. But I’m sure many people in other countries of the world also began to think about how important gratitude is and show their gratitude.
Gratitude is so important that I’ve demanded myself to think about it every week. What we are and what we’ve got today couldn’t have been achieved if it were no so many people helping us along the way. Do you still remember the friendly smile, the encouraging words, the consolation we received, the share of information……? Sometimes, we are helped without noticing it.
Those help made us feel warmed and find what a good place we are living in. In return for their help and the warmness we got, we become nicer not only to those who helped us, but to those who are in need of help. If everyone of us become nicer and help each other, our world will become an even better place. Isn’t that amazing? The world becomes better because of our efforts! Helping others is our right. Don’t give it up easily.
We always believe that getting rich or being glorious in our career is success. But it is really hard to get rich or have a fulfilling career in a short period, we then sometimes feel so disappointed and frustrated that we forget that every step we have moved forward or every little improvement we have made is already a success!
Getting more confident, positive, or happier is a success. It was made by your continuous efforts in putting what you had learned about confidence, attitude changing etc. into practice and it worked on you, didn’t it? From that point, you are successful! You are successful enough to give others suggestions on how to be a confident and positive person. Can’t it be called success?
Success isn’t that difficult, we are making success in every one of our improvement. Just keep going, we are sure to make the final success.
There are two purposes or types of meditation. The first as well as basic one is to reach the peaceful state in our mind. The second one is to become wise. I’m now learning at the first stage.
The general posture for meditation is sitting. We can sit on a cushion with our back straight and eyes closed. We may make our legs crossed or one leg bending while the other stretching. Two hands cross on the thighs with arms naturally falling down. The posture rules do not need obeying strictly, but the point is to find a posture which makes you feel refreshed and relaxed.
In order to get the peace, we concentrate all our focus on our breath. Feel our breath coming in and going out. My teacher also suggested that people can focus on the movement of their stomach while breathing, instead of on the breath which is harder to follow. This is said to be able to help avoid breathing intentionally and distracting your concentration.
However, to me it’s just the opposite works! I prefer to feel the breath as following the movement of my stomach could make me breathe intentionally and totally distract my concentration. So I think it depends. The point is to choose a way which makes you feel comfortable and helps you concentrate.
Every monday is gratitude day.
Without any preparation, I had my first Buddha teacher. In China, in this case we should have a big teacher-meeting ceremony. While in Buddhism, I guess simplicity and dedication are universal. It’s your heart, your sincere heart, that matters. What’s more, helping people reach a state of peaceful mind is supreme.
All can be freely used, tangible and intangible (teacher is just one case), although you’ll find how humble they are. It made me feel embarrassed. I’ve never used things for free. It also made me sigh with emotion and value the scarcity in our society. That’s why they have a donation box there to release your guilt, I suppose, or show your sincerity. It all depends on your own will. The best way to reduce your embarrassment is to get the peace and help more people get it.
Gratitude is not just saying thanks. It can be shown in other ways. It can also be shown by helping others to pass on the good.
May all who are pursuing the peace in mind succeed! Sadhu.
Gratitude should be a ritual of our life. I won’t restate all the benefits of gratitude. You may check Way to Happiness & Peace and Gratitude 2.0.
Therefore, I decided to mark every Monday as my gratitude day.
I’ve been in a very low mood these days. I’m afraid I have no enough guts to move forward. I couldn’t see any prospect ahead.
But this is life. We always have highs and lows. It happens to everyone.
I should thank life for letting me know the truth of it. Thanks for giving me hardship which helps me grow and gives me the chance to do introspection. I don’t think I’ve been working hard enough. I haven’t put all my efforts into work.
Life is still going on. No matter how tough it is ahead, we have to move forward. Rather than focus on the toughness and fail to step out of it, we should embrace it with delight. As long as you give it a try, you won’t feel regretted.
A company I care much will be sold.
When I heard the news, I was upset about the change without any reason, and I would be anxious as well if I were one of its employees. Later, I suddenly realized how ridiculous I was.
When a change comes, mostly, people will refuse it automatically even without asking what the change will bring to them. We are afraid of change. We assume it’s of negative nature. We are at ease with what we have now. Why do we need change?!
It’s impossible to refuse changes as change is the only constant.
Change is just like anything else, has two sides, positive and negative. We focus more on the negative side while neglect the positive side it always has. We never know what improvement change could bring to our present easy state. Change also tends to open up doors of opportunities. Refusing a change may blind us from these very things.
Next time, when you meet a new change, stay for a while before you show your astonishment and uneasiness, and analyze both of its negative side and positive side, you may find how amazing the change is and couldn’t wait for the change!
I had the feeling right after my mentor analyzed how many entities may be benifited from the change of being sold. It’ll be a great deal if the plans could be settled.
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