Laws of Leadership No.8—Leaders Evaluate Everything with a Leadership Bias

Leaders cannot rely on just facts. Great leaders have to have intuition.

• Intuition requires a reading of:

1. Situation
2. Trends
3. Resources
4. People
5. Selves

• There are three levels of leadership intuition:

1. Those who will never see it;
2. Those who are nurtured to see it;
3. Those who naturally see it.

What Does Father Look Like?

June is father’s month.

Father’s love is always less put in the spotlight than mother’s, as well as less sung by praises. It is especially true in my family. Whenever we present our shortcomings or weaknesses, my mom will always say, “these are inherited from your father.”:)

My father is a perfectionist, and very serious and strict to us. From quite a young age, we seldom hanged around him. We were kind of scared of him. In order to avoid being scolded, we tried to be away from him as far as possible. That’s one of the reasons why I’m not around him today.:)

I left home to a very good high school at an early age. Then I went to the university that is far away from my hometown. During my growing days, I didn’t have chances to talk much with my father and I made most of the life decisions on my own. I sometimes wonder what the influence my father has on me, and what the position a father should be in in a family.

Everybody has his/her own picture for a father. So does my father. Responsibility is the first definition in his dictionary for the word “Father”. He is the most responsible person whom I’ve ever seen. He always says, “This is what I should do as a father.” “I’ll just do what I should do no matter how disappointed you’ve made me.” In spite of his strictness, I know exactly how much he has done and sacrificed for us so as to give us a good education and growing environment. I would say, I have a good father.

While in my picture for father, responsibility is one respect. The other respect is tenderness. Maybe one of the roles a father performs, is to protect his children and let them feel taken care of.

What is your picture for father?

May all the fathers happy in June!

Photo by shanliren.

Woman at Thirty

June 3rd, is my birthday on Chinese lunar carlendar. Then, I’ll be another step closer to the age of thirty:(

On the day when I was 20, I visualised what I would be like at the age of 30 and wrote into my diary. I guessed I might get married with a kid, and have a satisfying job, which is the regular but ideal life for most Chinese.

Looking back, none of my previous dreams has come true, haha. There’s no any regret though. In the past less than 10 years, I’ve been walking every step following my heart. I’ve come to some point that I’ve never thought of while become someone that I kind of had any idea of.

Woman at thirty is mature. She knows what is right and wrong and determined to do the right things for herself and others. She’s responsible and capable of handling everything in place, thus becomes someone who can be depended on by her family and friends once something unexpected happens.

Woman at thirty is calm and composed.  She’s like a clear lake. When the sun shines on the lake, it sparkles sliently. When the wind passes by the lake, it remains poised and meanders its way. When the storm hit the lake, it does not arouse a single huge wave but does dance elegantly with the storm.

Woman at thirty is like a blossoming flower. She still has concerns, still tries to figure out the nature of many things, and keeps learning and growing.

The beauty of thirty comes from within. It’s the fruit of wisom and love, love for life and people.

Live in the Moment

“The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.” — Buddha

• What is “Live in the Moment”?

All of our unhappiness, be it sorrow, depression, frustration, fear or anger, results from hovering in the past or worrying about the future. Many a time, we forget what we can control for ourselves is here and now. We cannot change what has happened in the past, either can we tell what may or may not happen in the future.

“Live in the Moment” is to focus on what we are doing here and now. Without immersing ourselves in what has happened in the past, we’ll have no regret; without worrying about what may or may not happen in the future, we’ll have no anxiety.

• How to Live in the Moment?

1. One thought at a time

Our mind is full of thoughts. Turn off the thoughts that are irrelevant with what you are doing right now.

2.   Midfulness-practice

Focus our mind on what we are doing. Have the awareness in all our actions. Whether we are listening to the music, eating a banana, or washing dishes, immerse ourselves into every movement we make. We are not thinking about the appointment, the meeting, or the phonecall. We are fully living in the moment.

3.   Meditation

Regular meditation will help us become focused. The meditation I’m practicing is to focus on my breath.